Tuesday, July 28, 2015

Mother in laws

So, the subject of today's discussion is going be.. ahem.. MILs. Are they really like those EK serial type women? Well to be honest I always though those were so delusional and unreal but listening to some friends of mine and their stories.. phew.. I have changed my mind and I really thank my stars that I have been lucky to have a really nice mother in law. Although I don't think I am the best daughter in law around..

Listening to some crazy stories of mental harrassment, I wonder what makes us independent women still not willing to speak out, to go against what is wrong. And what makes these Indian men (maybe not all, but really so many of them) act like their parents can do/say no wrong. Will this ever change? 

2 comments:

chaos said...

Sometimes it's the unconscious bias which leads to seeing things differently. I know my mom well enough to say that she'd be not one of those "slimy" MILs (if not the best!) ... but, I noticed that my wife has a prefixed notion on my mom... and she has a negative notion whether my mom does or does not do something / anything... Difficult to remove that bias...

Same goes with Moms also... they have been brought up in an environment and their mental make up is of different school of thoughts... and that would be difficult to change. Acceptance (and openness to accept) is the best way forward.

Neha said...

Yea you are right. It's somewhere at the back of our mind conditioned by what we have seen growing up/ on television and films.. but it's time to let go of it I think :-) Maybe the next generation will fare better..