Do you think someone can really change? The habits, the thinking that has been inculcated over years...can it ever really go? A lot of times, we make mistakes. We even realize that we have made a mistake, and we vow or atleast say that we'll definitely try not to make that same mistake again. Yet it happens, it happens again. And again. And again.Why? Why do we make the same follies over and over again even after we realize that what we're doing is not right. Why do we lose our tempers over the same things, even though we know it's not going to help.Why do we feel bad over the same things, even though we know that things won't change. Why do we hurt people we care about by our own actions, even though we somewhere deep inside know that we are going to hurt them. Does our brain stop working at such times, temporarily, momentarily... and then springs back into action when we realize that we have done it again. The answers seem to be beyond my comprehension..
"We make them cry who care for us, we cry for them who never care for us and we care for them who will never cry for us" Got this as an sms...may not be completely true, but it just sounds so real...
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already am in a lone mood thinking too much for past two day. such a para at last no need to tell - i am obsessed with this. hmmmmmmmmm by the where did i make that word ?b you mentioned in my page. just wondering ia m known for spelling mistakes since my 1st standard and since then i had been noticed - i use a excuse - you see i am a science student. eheiehei and english is greek and latin to me. ehiehei just kidding
u didnt make the word...google did!!and gav eme for word verification :-)
Well at times we cant help losing our temper, it happens. But the point is we should act quickly to repair the damage or else we might end up losing the people who care abt us.. Cheer up :)
history repeats itself because man repeats his mistakes.
thats so true neha..u know i love on of ma frnds more than nayoneone else and anything else n that obviously includes me....n she dosen even talk to me n dont wana talk either..! n what u jsu posted comes to ma mind every now n then..but u c,,,cant help it..!
thre are few things in life which I dont think about much...like u mentinoed in this post, why we make same mistakes again n again in life...and like why we fart while walking, when we know its illegal...and you know things like that...
but the more u think...the more you gonan get confused...so the ideal solution...grab the nearest cell phone and just keep on FWDing that sms to everyone :)
Ppl can change...cos I have changed enormously after a huge experience. I guess what changes us are certain major events in life.
Keshi.
I believe eventually our pain
overcomes our "fear" of change-
and we take the leap out of
necessity - or even sometime's
out of love.
oh - and your template is
so very beautiful - i really
love it:)
Ya that’s true…
We commit some mistakes and we do realize that we have committed some mistakes. And then we decide not to commit it again… But next time again we do the same. But I think it just happens… Next time it won’t be deliberately, should not worry about it… We just need to try.. that’s it..
Your questions are worth thinking but frankly telling such questions will give you depression and nothing else. (Experience speaks)… So just forget everything… live each moment of ur life n njoy!!!!!!!!!
Ya that’s true…
We commit some mistakes and we do realize that we have committed some mistakes. And then we decide not to commit it again… But next time again we do the same. But I think it just happens… Next time it won’t be deliberately, should not worry about it… We just need to try.. that’s it..
Your questions are worth thinking but frankly telling such questions will give you depression and nothing else. (Experience speaks)… So just forget everything… live each moment of ur life n njoy!!!!!!!!!
very difficult to answer these questions buddy...
but thats what Life is...Nice thought dear....
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I think the fact that we can change or change somebody is just an illusion. People can never really change--what changes are the expectations
to change, one needs the right atmosphere forchanging, constant encouragement and a diversion from the usual habit. Put an hot-tempered person in midst of a group of happy people, who know how to smile and take life and laugh and he will change.
getting angry is easy, it takes a lot more to be able to keep your cool and smile it away
We don't change because we don't want to..If u really want to change, you will..
I beleive change is the only constant thing whatsoever...!!!!..Everybody can change everything provided he/she has a will to do so....:)..
Keep the good work goin...
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neha madam!!!
Uthon .. aur niklow is mood se!!
pehle toh .. this profile pic does not Siut you and your chripy persona.. so better!!........
doosra.. the sms is really classy... and is worth publishing on my new one line central blog .. so i will steal it... ( thank you for not sueing me..in advance)
Teesra...: Appki jo assmanjass hai usko door karne ke liye aur aapke latest comment ki pushti ke liye, I will write a very intersting entry on my Chnage Blog , sooner than you will know!!
till then...
Enjoy!!! in-joy
I was surprised to see someone else who has the same thoughts as I do about how we decide we want to cahnge, but the next time round a similar situation comes up, we do the exact same thing again! And sometimes it becomes one too many times much, and its useless to even apologise.. the harm is done, and u cant even say "i'm sorry, it wont happen again", becoz ur'e about 90% sure it def will! Its a helpless feeling sometimes..
old habits die hard n bad habits are picked up easily
the font looks nice in this post..
there you go
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well I think change is a natural phenomena! However change is best managed when it happens naturally to people over a period of time rather than when it is forced by someone or something!
No doubt, change is toughest thing in life , but I beleive that transition and change both can be managed.
I have changed so much in life , really right from my education and academic performance, relationship with frens ,emotional actions but ya somethings never change and dats 4 ever....
@catch22, sometimes the damage jus end sup making permanent cracks...:-)
@Raghav, preceisely...why doesnt man ever learn!nto even from his own mistakes..
@anirudh, hey buddy...wat do i say!!life is unfair..
@Arz000n, u look like ur totally back in form..lol...ur right i just dont need to tax my brain so much :D
Howz manchester?cold there?
@Keshi, possibly...ur right..
@sophie, thts a very interesting thought...and put beautifully too :-)
and thanku... though me's thinking of changing it now :-)
@Dhaval, if it was deliberate,it wud not be a mistake :-)
you are right.. if i keep thinkin like this all the time i wud have been depressed by now..lol.. but i dont :-) these things come outmore while im writing...im more cheerful usually.lol..
@Ajay,lol...thanks..i will check it out!
@Ekta, totaly opposite to wat ur husband thinks..lol...;-)
@jeseem, well ideal conditions..if only they wud exist..
'getting angry is easy, it takes a lot more to be able to keep your cool and smile it away'
that is soo true!!
@Ks, a lot of people here agree with u :-)
@Abhishek, lol..since u hv already donw it.. wat can i say :P
kiddin... im honoured tht i inspired u to post ;)
i will just go and check out the post right now!
@Sudeep, thts my official font ;) use it for all drafts et al..
@Anand, well yes, we do change... but do we change as and when we want to... thts the question
@amit, i have chanegd too :-) but there r soem things which i want to and try to change in myself...but...sigh!
@Aparna, very !! :-)
"We make them cry who care for us, we cry for them who never care for us and we care for them who will never cry for us" ...
Sounds Paradoxical... seems like you had too much of time to ponder over useless stuff (eventually worsen your mood and does no good!)
cheer up lady ... life has better things to wonder about :)
thats what our life is..
we always run after those things that are difficult to get..n those that are near to us, we never care for them..its a human nature...
sumtimes we just don learn from our mistakes...sad but true!... the stress is not just on not learning but on "sometimes" also...its not always!!
"We make them cry who care for us, we cry for them who never care for us and we care for them who will never cry for us"
ummm...it's a lot to do wid how we luk at things...the above statement sounds true but need not be the case always...it wld prob ring true when one's goin thru that phase...but then don forget it's just that...a phase...!
Coz i think we really love this mistake...and its happen again as our mind have small part of bad insects which come out when we eat wrong food or we are in wrong direction to think..
good blog as far..really good
Well to err is human n to err on the same side again n again is even more human.
We keep comitting the same mistakes perpetually cos there r certain things which r so firmly entrenched in our subconcious that a particular situation always triggers off an identical response, we act on impulse n realise later that we've committed d same folly again.
Solution: Avoid acting on impulse, think long and hard before u act or react.
As far as hurting people is concerned we hurt people we care about mostly cos of our ego(isnt that true??).The solution lies in understanding that if u care abt sum1 ego shouldnt have any place in the relationship,with them it shouldnt be 'i' n 'u' rather it should be 'we'.
Dont u think i should start writing agony uncle columns in magazines??
Well cos of paucity of time n space i cant elaborate further.
If u need any more counselling we can negotiate on my fees;) Take care.Keep blogging:)
"We make them cry who care for us, we cry for them who never care for us and we care for them who will never cry for us"
cudnt agree more!
people change, their habits change, their thinkin mite also change,change is inevitable afterall...but never the essence!! the person's esssence never changes or dilutes...
yea, even I ahve wondered about why we keep makin the same mistakes inspite of knowin that we are going to regret later...
that sms is really good...true to a large extent...I wonder why tho!hehhee...sorry but I ahve no answers...I only ask questions:)
thats good...
njoy...
LOL
Hi Neha, this is my first time here.. First, I love the template that you have used. Second, your post does set me thinking.. but at the moment, there is nothing to say.
If we knew the answers to all the WHY you have asked our lives would have been so easy..
:-)
Twas a nice post..
:-)
I have always felt that those periods during which you mourn over your actions that you've committed, always help in reducing the spontaneity of the same action, the next time.
In short and in a less complex explanation, it only means that the more you worry about something that you have done, the less instinctively you will do the same; till a time comes when you actually stop yourself from doing it. After a lot of grief, pain, lamenting and regret, of course. But yes. You do learn, finally. Believe me. We all do. When we finally 'know' that we should not do it anymore.
Interesting sentences @ the last paragraph-
"We make them cry who care for us, we cry for them who never care for us and we care for them who will never cry for us"
a part of this has worked perfectly right with me.
n yea...ur queries r really diffcult to answers...after all its human nature.
You know there are some times in life when you just go Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.....
And the there are time like these where you go Hmmmmmmmm????????
Just had to say that.
yeah v repeat the mistakes...'to err is human'...but v shudn't follow dis quote al the time..
I agree sometimes mistakes also teach something...but it doesn't mean that v shud be consistently committing mistakes...one shud always open to changes...afterall. change si the thing which is driving the world forward...so avoid committing mistakes and still u commit any mistake,take its experience in ur stride and move forward....
Gosh!! Someone is replying to comments here :P
default font? Mine is different.. whts the name?
HHIII.....remember me?
Old habits die hard but given a chance everybodyy can pick up new habits very easily.....it all depends on the mentality..it all depends on u urself
Winter has just started here....think it'll start to snow in next couple of days....
It'll be my first snowy experience in ma life...YEYYY!!!
It said that in management one should not make the same mistake twice. What you have said maybe subconscious or unconscious habits which are extremely difficult to change. Sometimes the motives are wrong and radical change can be brought about only throug adverse cirumstances. That is my view
People do change, their personalities change, their way of thinking changes...everything does change. I think it's just that most changes are gradual and sometimes go unnoticed.
As for mistakes, I recently a read very interesting thing in a book. One of the characters said that we make mistakes because somehow we want to. He said that somewhere in our subconscious, we like to do that wrong thing no matter how much we deny it. I think it does make some sense.
By the way, how in the world are you able to have different fonts on Blogger? :/
Answered my question !! I was just getting pissed off with certain things in life. Now, I think its not worth crying for someone who doesn't care that they might hurt you by their words repeatedly.
keep looking keep lookin one day ..u will find itt...the thing fdor which u will can die for
hi wt i did know about u after thinking u. u r not looking for or searching for any thing. the truth is that u r a true seeker. i wud be happy if i can communicate with u and wud make out a clear picture, i hav in my mind n u think that can't be. u think u'll keep on rambling on and on. but i don't think so.
- sandesh(sandesh_aryan@yahoo.co.in) delhi
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